Remember the look on your college roommate’s face when you divided the candy bar you’ve been hoarding all week and hand her half, unsolicited?
Showing appreciation at work is the same way. You only need a little bit to make a co-worker’s day and encourage her to view you in a positive light from that point on. Did someone help you out? Thank her. Was it a big deal, did she go out of her way or did it take a lot of time? Send her a card or flowers, or take her to lunch. If she really went above and beyond the call of duty, make sure her boss knows about it.
I don’t subscribe to the theory that you shouldn’t have to thank someone for doing her job. When a colleague does her job well and it helps you, what harm does it do to thank her? The answer is none – it just makes her like you more.
It’s unfortunate that some people in the business world don’t believe in sharing credit for successes. You should get into the habit now of always acknowledging people’s achievements, large and small. You don’t appreciate when your own accomplishments are met with silence and others don’t either.
Sharing appreciation and praise helps those of us who lean naturally toward the “glass half empty” mentality to focus on the finer aspects of other people and their behavior. Not only does this behavior strengthen our relationships and encourage cooperation, but it also positively impacts the way we think about ourselves and the world.